CONNECTION UNSEEN!

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PROACTIVELY KIND!

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KINDNESS CREATES AN 'US' SPACE!

Kindness: CREATES an 'us' space,

NOT a 'you vs. me' space

---We will start with the premise that we ALL know about kindness. We have probably experienced that by being in the vicinity where ''kind'' was happening. Whether you believe that folks are kind because it is their nature or kindness is a way folks manipulate one another to get their own needs met, we all have a concept of what kindness is.

---If we are kind and act kindly things tend to be more hassle-free. It seems to work better than those times we begin by demanding and acting selfishly. When we are in a situation only concerned with getting our own needs met and have NO concern for what others may be doing...we act opposite to being kind. The more civil we act tends to be a better thing for society in general. You catch more flies with honey.

---So...this is pretty fundamental and we all seem to be aware of it. At onetime in my life we seemed to approach each other with this abandon, but we now carry a weariness and suspicion when we move amongst each other. The old joke has come to past – ''Even if you're NOT paranoid; it doesn't mean you're NOT being followed.''

---It seems we have to get back to an 'us' space. When we see life as a 'me vs. them' proposition, then that is what we will see AND that's when our heartaches begin. It is up to us (you and I) to make this an 'us' space, again. The only thing that will (turn folks back around) is NOT to add to the suspicion that folks already have. If you are kindly and true to this belief, than you will convey that. The quote by Gandhi was right on: be the change that you wish to see in the world. We have to start by being more proactively kind. Be Well.

KINDNESS IS A BRIDGE FROM A 'ME vs THEM' SPACE TO AN 'US' SPACE!

WITNESSING KINDNESS!

WITNESSING KINDNESS

---I'm sure we all have heard the expressions that it is ''nice to be nice'' and ''there is a lot of power in kindness''...but, were you aware that science is finding that anyone who witnesses an act of kindness – benefits, also. His body chemistry improves when he takes notice of kindness happening. They are calling this warm feeling a ''moral elevation.''

---If you think back to a time when something kind was happening in your presence...you can, probably, relate. Scientists are also finding that folks tend to ACT more kindly when witnessing kindness. They are seeing niceness to be contagious in this way.

---If we act kindly toward someone we usually find that is the way they respond. The Golden Rule is in motion and we see that folks generally treat us much like we treat them. Watch how dogs act around you. We more or less get what we give. Be kind, but, also, be intelligent. Don't be someone's doormat. If we are being kind, BUT...realize that that is being driven by an ulterior motive that we have, that will eventually breakdown. That is why it is so important to have a handle on how we, ourselves, operate.

---Knowing ourselves and our motivations and being honest with it all will, probably, provide us with quality relationships for a longtime. In the same vein, if we are playing games with people's feeling we are probably watching ours being stomped on, too. Be NICE, Be KIND and Be INTELLIGENT! Eventually we'll be witnessing kindness, again. The world sure seems in need of some. Be Well!

BE KIND: This is what we can do!

A MUSICAL INSTRUMENT!

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HULA GIRL!

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LIVING IN THE PRESENT MOMENT!

Why Is Breaking Up So Hard To Do?

Why Is Breaking Up So Hard To Do?

---An easy answer seems to be that we are unable to live in the same realm that we do when the other is involved. We seem to need the other person’s involvement to attain the place that we want to be. He or she brings the necessary ingredient to us to reach heights we can’t seem to reach on our own. Or, as in the ''puppy love'' genre that this song came from, we see that the two people who get together, most probably aren't fully developed in the growing up department. While developing, many young people become attached and detached often. This is the trial and error part of learning and growing that we all experience as we grow and learn. Sometimes it is painful and ''Hard To Do!'' The more pure and developed the love, the less painful it becomes. It is like the learning curve in everything. Experience is the best teacher in all of this. (Also, I've learned that it is easier to do this in theory than actually do it. Some of my relationships will attest to this.)

---To use my situation as an example (Of MICE and MEN) ‘’I cannot eat w/utensils with either hand, but together I am able to use utensils.’’ The two hands together are able to do something that I am NOT able to do with either hand, because of the stroke. The video - Of MICE and MEN! (Click)

---Since, the quality of my life is wrapped up in the fact that I am able to eat w/utensils…both hands are necessary to achieve this.

---If we expand the relationship of both hands working in a partnership for a common goal, we see that this relationship is much the same as any relationship. Two ‘get’ together to create a third. I’ve talked about this at other times. I’m sure that you are able to see how this works identically in relationships you are in. It is the blueprint for every positive relationship that exists. This is the way that we have populated the planet.

---Oh, yeah…the answer to the question. One depends on the other to achieve a state unreachable on his own. The other becomes necessary if the goal is to be reached. Two ‘beget’ the Third. The stroke made it impossible for my right-hand to go it alone. Also, this is the same reason that all of us have something or other we are dealing with. Take Care.

A STAIRWAY TO...

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BE LOVING...NOT WAITING!

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LOVE: Conditional or Unconditional?

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ACCEPT YOURSELF: So-Called Flaws + All

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HARD PILL TO SWALLOW!

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The HOLIDAY FLY - SINGs

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

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The TRUTH of the MATTER!

''Yep! Most times it's NO more complicated than our own tails!''

 

MEANING of LIFE - Sequel (picwise)

''I wonder if there are any CATs in space?''

SUCCESS or FAILURE!

''You see...CATs don't worry if they succeed or fail! They're CATs!''

 

NAKED AS A JAY-BIRD

''You do realize that HUMANs are the ones with the problems? CATs + COWs are fine.''

REALIZATION HELPS US STOP HATING!

What Realization Helps Us Stop Hating Others?

---You can have one realization that stops you from disliking other people. It is the realization that keeps others off of any negative list we may have. Realization: You don’t hate or dislike the other person or people, but hate or dislike the behavior that is used.

---When you look into this a bit more deeply we find that it is generally the behavior or attitude of other people (or our own) that causes ALL the problems. That’s what we find ourselves reacting to.

---To go a step further into this cave…we find that the values one has, directs what attitudes + behaviors the person uses. If the values change, than usually the attitudes + behaviors change.

---Attitudes + behaviors can be like coats folks put-on or take-off. If someone is doing something we don’t particularly like or saying something we find irritating they are probably wearing a garment from ‘’His Own Values Store’’ that we don’t like. The opposite is true if we find we like something.

---If we want to make changes in our attitudes and behaviors - we have to make changes in the values to insure any lasting changes are made. Peoples values are difficult to mess with as they reflect how they believe life works and are set very deeply inside. Wherever one truly finds himself in this crazy thing we call life and living PROBABLY/UNDOUBTEDLY has a value system that backs it up. And…it was PROBABLY/UNDOUBTEDLY set in place by a deep-seated reason why it is there. If we want the best for others than we will undoubtedly think good thoughts. If we don’t want what is best for others and treat them negatively, we will probably find that the way we have been treating others is the way we ’’are and will be’’ treated - negatively. It will be this way until…we make a positive change in our values…to remedy the situation. That’s why it pays well to treat others kindly or find out why we don‘t. Check your values! This could be the most important thing that you have ever done. Be Well.

(You will find positive values take root much easier than anything negative...if you tend to be positive)