Why Is Breaking Up So Hard To Do?

Why Is Breaking Up So Hard To Do?

---An easy answer seems to be that we are unable to live in the same realm that we do when the other is involved. We seem to need the other person’s involvement to attain the place that we want to be. He or she brings the necessary ingredient to us to reach heights we can’t seem to reach on our own. Or, as in the ''puppy love'' genre that this song came from, we see that the two people who get together, most probably aren't fully developed in the growing up department. While developing, many young people become attached and detached often. This is the trial and error part of learning and growing that we all experience as we grow and learn. Sometimes it is painful and ''Hard To Do!'' The more pure and developed the love, the less painful it becomes. It is like the learning curve in everything. Experience is the best teacher in all of this. (Also, I've learned that it is easier to do this in theory than actually do it. Some of my relationships will attest to this.)

---To use my situation as an example (Of MICE and MEN) ‘’I cannot eat w/utensils with either hand, but together I am able to use utensils.’’ The two hands together are able to do something that I am NOT able to do with either hand, because of the stroke. The video - Of MICE and MEN! (Click)

---Since, the quality of my life is wrapped up in the fact that I am able to eat w/utensils…both hands are necessary to achieve this.

---If we expand the relationship of both hands working in a partnership for a common goal, we see that this relationship is much the same as any relationship. Two ‘get’ together to create a third. I’ve talked about this at other times. I’m sure that you are able to see how this works identically in relationships you are in. It is the blueprint for every positive relationship that exists. This is the way that we have populated the planet.

---Oh, yeah…the answer to the question. One depends on the other to achieve a state unreachable on his own. The other becomes necessary if the goal is to be reached. Two ‘beget’ the Third. The stroke made it impossible for my right-hand to go it alone. Also, this is the same reason that all of us have something or other we are dealing with. Take Care.

A STAIRWAY TO...

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BE LOVING...NOT WAITING!

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LOVE: Conditional or Unconditional?

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ACCEPT YOURSELF: So-Called Flaws + All

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HARD PILL TO SWALLOW!

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The HOLIDAY FLY - SINGs

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

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The TRUTH of the MATTER!

''Yep! Most times it's NO more complicated than our own tails!''

 

MEANING of LIFE - Sequel (picwise)

''I wonder if there are any CATs in space?''

SUCCESS or FAILURE!

''You see...CATs don't worry if they succeed or fail! They're CATs!''

 

NAKED AS A JAY-BIRD

''You do realize that HUMANs are the ones with the problems? CATs + COWs are fine.''

REALIZATION HELPS US STOP HATING!

What Realization Helps Us Stop Hating Others?

---You can have one realization that stops you from disliking other people. It is the realization that keeps others off of any negative list we may have. Realization: You don’t hate or dislike the other person or people, but hate or dislike the behavior that is used.

---When you look into this a bit more deeply we find that it is generally the behavior or attitude of other people (or our own) that causes ALL the problems. That’s what we find ourselves reacting to.

---To go a step further into this cave…we find that the values one has, directs what attitudes + behaviors the person uses. If the values change, than usually the attitudes + behaviors change.

---Attitudes + behaviors can be like coats folks put-on or take-off. If someone is doing something we don’t particularly like or saying something we find irritating they are probably wearing a garment from ‘’His Own Values Store’’ that we don’t like. The opposite is true if we find we like something.

---If we want to make changes in our attitudes and behaviors - we have to make changes in the values to insure any lasting changes are made. Peoples values are difficult to mess with as they reflect how they believe life works and are set very deeply inside. Wherever one truly finds himself in this crazy thing we call life and living PROBABLY/UNDOUBTEDLY has a value system that backs it up. And…it was PROBABLY/UNDOUBTEDLY set in place by a deep-seated reason why it is there. If we want the best for others than we will undoubtedly think good thoughts. If we don’t want what is best for others and treat them negatively, we will probably find that the way we have been treating others is the way we ’’are and will be’’ treated - negatively. It will be this way until…we make a positive change in our values…to remedy the situation. That’s why it pays well to treat others kindly or find out why we don‘t. Check your values! This could be the most important thing that you have ever done. Be Well.

(You will find positive values take root much easier than anything negative...if you tend to be positive)

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PEACE - A CONSCIOUS CHOICE

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MEDITATION!

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GOLDEN RULE is GOLDEN LAW!

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WHAT IS MEANT -

''We ALL Love One Another; We're Just Working Out The Details''

 ---What do I mean when I say this? As a matter of fact I tell folks that this is my personal philosophy. It seems that it isn't as obvious to others as I thought.

---We must break it down into two parts. We ALL love one another. That in itself seems ludicrous. I can give a list of people that I don't love...or even like very much. People go from there usually giving me a quick list of different world leaders who were the cause of much suffering, death + destruction. How can I possibly love them. They can be outraged at me for even suggesting that.

---I have to break it down a bit further. I believe that LOVE exists whether we feel it or not. Whether anyone feels it or not. LOVE is always present...it is just that most folks don't know how to access it. The problem that I see is this; folks for the most part are waiting to be loved and are not loving. They may think that they are, but self-concern + saving face runs the show. They are, usually, busy TRYING to get their needs + preferences met. Because of this backwards approach (if you will,) folks end up waiting to be loved instead of being loving. I see this as being the real problem...but, that is, then, hence its solution.

 ---We must be loving for this process to work. If we wait around to be loved and are NOT being loving – we then have the process backwards. If we wait to feel love first, we may just wait forever (a long, long time.) You will wait as long as it takes for you to learn that it works the other way.

---''To FEEL LOVE, YOU MUST BE LOVING.'' The other way doesn't work. It is like waiting to be perfect before you act. It is one thing to get your act together, but waiting to be perfect FIRST will not work. Too many semantics and interpretations to concern yourself with before you can declare that that has indeed happened AND you are now perfect. (Ask your mother, wife or sister to weigh-in on the subject...if you are getting too full of yourself.) Husbands, in general, if smart...won't answer that or just will not truthfully know what you're talking about.

---The second half of that statement - working out the details...come into play in the fact that many, many have still got it backwards and complain so much and so loudly and wonder why it doesn't work. Some folks have a lot invested in its being the other (wrong) way AND they belligerently insist that it does indeed work the other (wrong) way...even when they may NOT realize what it is that they are really doing.

---Folks go to war over the fact that they have this backwards...instead of simply realizing that they must love first. Many relationships go sour, because of faulty logic. A lot of time is spent on trying to see eye-to-eye before love is even considered. That, once again is CONDITIONAL LOVE and NOT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Instead of being loving...you love only those that see things as you do. The DETAILS are KILLING US  in this way.
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Love is a FACT...NOT JUST A FEELING. Act accordingly. Be Well.

The saying now changes to:

''We ALL Love One Another; we are simply + gently working out the details''

''LIFE LESSONS!'' - WHERE?

FOLLOW THIS and FIND MEANING!

A Great OBJECTIVE in Life!