Wednesday, February 28, 2018

REDEFINE WINNING


 RIVALRY: Sibling or Otherwise



CLICK THOUGHTOON!

---Many find themselves competing and comparing themselves to siblings and/or someone else who seemingly outdoes them at every turn. Him or her gets more notice for his abilities than you do. You discover that there exists a resentment toward this other person that exposes a jealousy you harbor toward him/her for the abilities he has.

---The real winning is NOT who crosses the finish line first. It comes to whomever finds his own pace that causes him/her to perform at his optimum.



CLICK THOUGHTOON!

---This calls into question the difference between BEING the best OR DOING your best. If the main concern is about being the best, you can see a more roller coaster ride is in store for your life. If your life is about doing your best, you can see how much, more consistent things will most likely be. Be Well.

Thursday, February 15, 2018

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

The PAUL H. (ZEN) STORY

HOW I SEE THE 
ZEN HOSPICE VOLUNTEERS at
LAGUNA HONDA HOSPITAL
by PAUL H. 
RESIDENT 
LAGUNA HONDA HOSPITAL 




---Then Geoff said about 4 or 5 paragraphs! Still, I heard myself answer, ''Yes! That should be no problem.'' I think that the gift of naivete may be my greatest gift. At least I have that going for me. And...NOT to be taken lightly is the Zen Volunteers ability to understand and forgive. Above and beyond everything...we have honesty. I've noticed that The Zen Volunteers and myself do aspire to honesty.

---I have been involved with Laguna Honda Hospital since June 20, 2002. Until then, I had barely heard the name and knew nothing at all about it. I had a stroke on June 2, 2002 and had been in SFGH for about three weeks. Now I was at Laguna Honda Hospital for Rehabilitation.

---I'm going to rewind a bit here. I had had a life changing realization in October of 1976. I very viably realized that ''Life and Living Is All About Love.'' I heard those words before from my Catholic upbringing...but, this night I heard everything, differently. The nutshell version is that I went from ACCEPTING that statement to be true, with every bit of blind faith imaginable, to UNDERSTANDING in October of 1976 what that may, actually, mean. It went from just ACCEPTING to NOW, ALSO, UNDERSTANDING what LOVE (to an extent) IS. The word APPRECIATION (of existence) was NOW a brand new animal.

---To backpedal a bit further...my birth in 1951, left me missing four fingers on my left-hand. I was, also, born with a heart murmur that would, probably, need an operation by age five. Long-story-short,
I didn't get the operation, but was psychologically imprisoned by my hand. Long-Story-Short...again, I learned that self-acceptance was in fact the life changer I received in 1976 and how self-acceptance makes a huge difference in one's life. The more one is in denial, the greater the revelation needed to get back to the zero point. I went through many, many situations to get to where I am today. I see self-acceptance to be much akin to Christ's death on the cross, Buddha's enlightenment, rebirth, attaining Krishna consciousness and/or the change that most religions speak of. It is the going from a selfish (unresurrected) to a more selfless (resurrected) self.

---To me....the Zen Volunteers provide what I see as one of the most necessary 'cogs in the wheel' at Laguna Honda. They seem to be one of the much needed psychological reset buttons (to life and living) we have for the residents. I was president of the Residents' Council from 2004 - 08. I went to many staff meetings. My recommendation, before I knew anything about the Zen Hospice Project at LHH, described a big part of what the Zen Volunteers do. Because of their friendships with the residents, the Zen Volunteers are great sounding boards...helping those residents who need it (which includes almost everyone) to see life more realistically and to get back to the zero point in their lives. Through this friendship they are able to help some of the residents who partake in the presence of the volunteers, be more accepting of their plight and why they are residents at LHH in the first place.


---On a very necessary level, the Zen Volunteers are a bunch of astute individuals ...with their feet planted firmly on the ground who sit and talk with the patients at the hospital. Their basic motto seems to be to listen to the resident and provide what is within their abilities to provide as to what they find necessary to provide that enhances the life of the resident.  Most often it's a much needed friendship in the patients hour of need. In some cases they bring a certain order to a much chaotic viewpoint that some of residents have. I, personally, wish the project was hospital-wide as most of the patients at LHH could/would benefit from their interaction.  I consider myself to be very fortunate to have a friendship of sorts with many of the Zen Volunteers who come to Laguna Honda Hospital. Be Well.

Thursday, June 29, 2017

PATIENT HAPPINESS + UPDATE



---According to ALL the literature…it ALL points to one thing, ‘’the happier the resident, the better his physical body responds to getting better.’’ Some doctors are even linking that what is wrong with the patient, can be found to have its roots in the psyche. Clearing up the root cause of the unhappiness usually unblocks the cause for the illness. What is wrong in the thinking can be affecting the body in a negative way and be responsible for the condition it’s in. We see that the way a person thinks has much to do with the way he feels.

---This ALL translates into a ‘’happy patient results in a better recovery.’’ We have on the other-side…a more negative response to life making it more difficult to recover. Misery loves company.

---Thinking positive thoughts and the positive affect they have on the body has been known for a very longtime. Confucius even had a quote along those lines thousands of years ago.

---It is important to tell the truth to yourself. The benefits are well worth it. Sometimes the thoughts that we have are pretty negative. That is why it is good to have someone to talk to…to get things off of our chests. We can have two negative people get together at times and realize that the ‘’bond’’ they have created can be very positive. Two negatives can make a positive - and this works in human behavior, also.


---Keep your thoughts positive and you do yourself a favor. If you listen to your body or other nay sayers you may be dragged into the swamps of how your body feels. Honestly...think good thoughts and of good times and you will be doing yourself a world of good. Take Care.

---I would, also, like to add that this applies to a more rapid turnover at the hospital, itself. If folks are made well, sooner...they are more ready to move on to their next step in life (whatever that may be.)


Patient Happiness (update)
written 4/1/17

---Happiness is still the attitude we hope for a patient. The happier that he or she is plays in a big way in favor of healing. If he or she is very receptive + accepting of the whole getting well process…then the whole hospital stay will undoubtedly go smoother.

---As we have stated in the past it is essential for the patient to feel that he has been heard in his life and has been taken seriously. Though this situation is something that applies to all of us…this has direct ramifications to the underserved population. It seems that people are Laguna Honda patients directy depending on how much they have been heard or taken seriously in there life. Through lack of encouragement at proper times or being given the respect deserved and needed by all children there seems a certain amount of folks that appear as lost soul (never to have been heardand/or taken seriously.) Achievement and accomplishment tends to be low. They spend a lot of time trying not to come across as dysfunctional. They find they easily get addicted or use things to excess that end up being detrimental to well-being...eventually. 

---It, also, has been made clear to me that the benefits of having a GROWTH MINDSET is far and away better than the FIXED MINDSET many of the underserved population contend with. One realizes that there is more to life than being a couch potato. There is more going on than just worrying if someone will find out that you don’t know very much. You will, actually, know things. One feels part of things as opposed to feeling excluded from things. One learns how to learn things as opposed to avoid most things that may show the world just how inept you actually feel and believe that you are.

Wednesday, June 28, 2017

Monday, May 29, 2017

Tuesday, May 02, 2017

Sunday, April 23, 2017

Tuesday, April 11, 2017

Tuesday, November 01, 2016

Tuesday, October 25, 2016

Tuesday, September 27, 2016

FINDING YOUR GREATNESS WITHIN!


FIND YOUR
GREATNESS



---To find your greatness you have to start by accepting yourself JUST AS YOU ARE. It doesn’t matter if you think you’re the worst person imaginable, with so-called faults, flaws and foibles…you must ACCEPT yourself JUST AS YOU ARE. Even if for now we are just saying that…we can get started.



---We have to unlearn all the negative stuff that interferes with our enjoyment of life and living. Things are set up in a way that if a cut or contusion happens it will eventually heal (if NOT messed with in a way that interferes with the healing.) Our own UNLEARNING comes in the way of STOPPING the things that we do that get in the way of the healing. We have to UNLEARN those things we have LEARNED that interfere with our enjoyment (healing.) With the example of cuts, scrapes, bruises or contusions we have to learn not to repeat or UNLEARN the process that caused the cut (or whatever trauma it might be) in the first place. With ALL that being done…WE HEAL and experience all the joys that go along with it.



---This is the nature of the layer that we live in everyday. It is the same layer that can cover (mask) all the good stuff. The layer is the stuff we are use to. Most things happen here, (the good and bad,) because we relate to things from this angle. The greatness within has been blocked by this layer of ‘normal living,‘ that we do. We are blocked from these wonderful things through our negative response(s) to usual things. Over the years, these wonderful things have been called many things. Some of its’ names have been your Buddha Nature, the Christ Within, the Kingdom Within, taking your own responsibility, Your Beatific Self, the Divine, Krishna consciousness, the Chi, the Viriditas, the God, the Force, the LOVE. It really is a way of seeing things in a more alive manner. Things are not as dull and lifeless, anymore. The sparkle is now there all due to the fact that YOU have changed within.



CLICK THOUGHTOON!


---We don’t have a direct connection with these things, because we have learned so many ways to keep ourselves removed from THEM. As soon as we’re born, we learn ways to deal with a life that makes these wonderful things the ideal and our usual existence a step down from this realm. Many spend much time in this layer…justifying it, etc., and in the process keep the illusion going. Unfortunately…we DO a pretty good job in keeping ourselves from the good stuff. We have even counterfeited it and call it by names that are really reserved for the good stuff. The REAL GOOD STUFF! Most of what we relate to in our usual life is just a bastardized version of what is really good.



CLICK THOUGHTOON!

---Being more vulnerable will get you there. Learning NOT to save face will work. Being more honest. Facing your embarrassments will get you there. There are many traps of the EGO that keep one from experiencing how good things can be. There are many naysayers to this approach, but truly if you face just one thing that embarrasses you; EVENTUALLY…probably not right away because old habits tend to be stubborn and stick around, but EVENTUALLY you will see the benefit of seeing and approaching things this way. This will NOT be a quick fix, if that is what you're looking for. When one finds himself in tune with the process...one will see and experience the benefits. How soon it happens will depend on how convinced and committed to its' value one is. But, when one is, it can be a continuous wave that is forever unfolding. Be Well!



This is a draft! Changes may occur.

Sunday, September 25, 2016

Wednesday, June 08, 2016

Friday, May 20, 2016

ROCK BOTTOM




ROCK BOTTOM

Rock Bottom
A Good Place To Be
NOT Always Fun

Rock Bottom
Strikes Fear in the Hearts of many,
Projection!

Down, down, down, down, down, down, down
Spiraling, Frightened, Out-of-Control,
I Hope I Bottom Out Soon

Rock Bottom
Don’t Do Yourself In,
In The Process!

Rock Bottom
Avoiding, But Inevitable…I’m Goin’ In,
Finally!

Rock Bottom
Freedom…With NOTHING Left To Lose
I Should Have Come Here Sooner

Rock Bottom
NOT a Bad Place To Be
Everything Looks Up To Me

Rock Bottom
The Pause That Refreshes
If You Do It Right!

Rock Bottom
Over Time, More Comfortable
Acceptance

Rock Bottom
NOT A Bad Place To Be
Starting Over...A NEW Me!

Saturday, March 12, 2016

Friday, February 19, 2016

Krishnamurti - Self-concern - Audiobook



---The books of JK were always my favorites since I read ''The Flight of the Eagle'' in the 70'S.

JIDDU KRISHNAMURTI Page (click)


Friday, February 05, 2016

A POEM - What LOVE Could Be...


What LOVE Could Be If
SAVING FACE Wasn't Around
To Ruin It?!


If We Weren’t So Worried
About How We Look

Or, What People Think Of

What It Is We Do;

This Is The Kind of Freedom
That Would Ensue

It Is The Self We Express
In Front of the Mirror
When NO One Is Watching
And We Think We Are Alone
And ALL Is Well!

It’s That Spark of Craziness
That We Express
When There is NO One Present
To Comment:

We Are So Used To Being Judged
And Reviewed
For ALL We DO
That We Only Choose To Do Things
That Make Us Look Good
GOD FORBID We Ever Look Bad
And Others See Us Be Vulnerable

Freedom To Express
How We Really Feel
Seems A Luxury;
To Physically Express
Doesn’t Happen Too Often;
Saving Face Comes In Around Here
And KEEPS Us In Check Very Well

The Day We Are NOT Worried With
How We Look
And How Well We Are Doing
Is The Day the GOATS At The Farm
Serve Me Dinner!

But, That May Also Be The Day
I Talk Patient POINT OF VIEW
With Someone Who HEARS Me
AND Finally,
Actually,
ACTS On It.


CLICK THOUGHTOON!

(The Last Stanza Above Can Be Substituted
By Anything That Makes Sense To You,
But May Sound Absurd To Most,
But You Still think That The
Final Outcome
Will Prove Fruitful!)