Monday, January 27, 2014


Maybe: A Focus Change

---I have a friend who I think is representative of many people…nowadays. He is very focused on what is wrong with most things and how corrupt things can tend to be. Every silver lining has an even darker cloud in its wake.

---He allows this focus to govern his mood and he becomes a virtual victim to this example of corruption that the article or story seems to depict. He doesn’t see any end to this or any light at the end of this tunnel. Every story seems to be another example of ‘man’s inhumanity to man.’

---This seems to be the way an ‘eye-for-eye’ turns out. If we do that, then our fate is well-documented. ‘’Screw over the other guy BEFORE he screws over you‘’…seems the mindset that drives this engine. You find yourself with a suspicious mindset that just waits for a mistake to be made that justifies this way of thinking. Believe me, This is not the only way to think.

---The answer to this may NOT be what you want to hear…BUT, it is very simple in thought and deed. We have to begin with ourselves AND be sure we are not causing others to be victims of how we behave. We have to be true to what we believe and how we see things...AND act accordingly. We have to be sure that our behavior is, also, not part of the problem.

---’’We have to treat one another like we want to be treated.’’ (The Golden Rule.) ‘’To cheer ourselves up, we cheer someone else up.’’ (Mark Twain.) There are many others that fit into here.

---When one puts the well-being of the other guy, FIRST, and thinks with the mindset of, ''when the team benefits...I benefit, also - even if I happen to bat 'clean-up.’ ''

---When you find yourself competing + comparing yourself to others, you can bet there is something wrong somewhere. We are ALL in this together. Rising at the expense of another is not going to get you far. Rising up as a result of the whole team truly rising…is much, more what it is about. Be Well.

We find who we really are ourselves when we learn to genuinely relate to others.