---If we build a bridge, a building or a structure with shoddy materials and workmanship, eventually, it will come crashing down around itself. If anything is built without the proper foundation to withstand ALL that life will hurl at him or her...we will find ourselves in the same boat. I don’t think most folks realize the importance of being appreciated, being valued, loved, supported, cared for, being kind, etc. Without these BASIC HUMAN NEEDs being met, their lives are built with the same shoddy materials that will make lives (themselves) fall apart, eventually. These HUMAN NEEDs are the building blocks of human life. These are very, very necessary.
---To quote JK Rowling, the author of the ‘’Harry Potter Series,’’ rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.’’ Folks don’t realize that a life without the key elements of being valued, being appreciated, being supported, etc...are like building a structure or a bridge with shoddy material and/or workmanship that won’t be able to withstand the weight and endure all the things the structure itself will go through during its’ existence. Really, it can’t do anything, BUT come crashing down around itself. A skyscraper built on sand, bridge abutments built in quicksand...will yield the same results. If we try to build a life with shoddy material and workmanship…(without the correct, solid building blocks,) we, also, will be faced with something that resembles something that is shattered before its’ time.
---The recipe of life has a healthy portion of the ingredients of love, support, being valued, being appreciated and being kind in it. There is NO scrimping on the materials (ingredients or building blocks) necessary to create a good, solid individual able to withstand all that life throws at him or her. Each time he/she interacts with love, being valued and being appreciated…the foundation ITSELF is strengthened and becomes more solid and stronger than it once was. Everything works better that way.
---Human needs are love, support, being valued and being appreciated. Self-knowledge, self-worth, self-esteem, etc., fit in there somewhere, also. Herein lies the rub - If these needs are not met...and met convincingly, then we are usually faced with an individual who is seeking to get these needs met. And, those things he gets himself addicted to as a substitute to these human needs being met, are sitting right-around-the-corner. He can almost seem consumed with these needs until they are met. When they are met, he then is ready to upgrade his life in ways that fit his situation, whatever that may be. Learn to accurately identify your actual needs AND then learn how to get them met. Be Well.
